In 1986 my Dad @philhove had just left the Army after 24 years and bought a small, run down cafe in Stanmer Park.
He’d ploughed all of his life savings into it and we were going to make it a success as a family. My Mum and Dad worked 7 days a week and when they weren’t serving teas and scones to dog walkers they were painting, doing DIY and making the cafe better.
In October 1987 there was a great storm and so many trees were uprooted and blown over.
Customers couldn’t get to the cafe for weeks as the roads were impassable without a 4X4. Business just died overnight.
That first day my Dad realised we were in trouble and he went out and bought a chainsaw, an axe and a splitter and he began chopping the fallen trees.
We spent that entire winter chopping logs day and night which we sold by the van load around Brighton and Hove for £40 a load from one advert in the Argus, our local paper.
I would leave for school at 7am (it was a long walk!) and he’d be up chopping logs and he’d still be doing it when I got home at 4pm. I would help him bag them up and deliver them every evening until 10pm at night.
I was just 13 years old and I clearly remember my Dad’s focus at that time, he was 100% committed to succeed.
We did that for six months, 7 days a week. Because of that income the cafe survived.
I learnt a valuable lesson that stays with me today; even in the biggest set backs in life, with the right mindset, success is possible.
Lots of people state they are going to be rich and successful.
I love hearing about other people’s ambitions. But the truth is I know that very few will actually realise their dreams. Most will fall prey to a the trap of mediocrity.
I can spot the ones who will make it.
They share a trait that differentiates them: a sense of urgency.
You can feel their urgency when they are around you. They move with absolute purpose and clarity. They ignore the details that most people pretend are vital, and instead focus on what’s really important; they move like their very lives depend on its results.
These are the people you shouldn’t bet against. These are the people who end up realising their dreams.
Your mindset will determine whether you will achieve your goals in life.
Your mindset is, without doubt, your greatest asset. It is more valuable than any degree, any education or any training.
Surround yourself with people who share your ambition and drive. Eliminate negative or cynical people from your life. I’ve never met a successful pessimist.
Then start doing the work, every single day; waking up early, grinding it out, every single day, day in-day out, developing your craft, mastering your skills, becoming someone who cannot be stopped from hitting their goals.
That’s what it’s going to take to have a winning mindset.