Everyone wants success, whether they admit it or not. I have yet to come across a single person who is living a fulfilled life by choosing to settle.
Life’s too short to live only for the weekends and holidays. To only enjoy some of your life and be just okay with the rest; that’s definitely not living your best life.
The problem is that it’s easier to dream about, talk about, or even bluff success than it is to actually achieve it. But real success is created by your actions, not your words. The only way to get the life you dream of is action.
So, ignore the cynics, the people who have given up on their own dreams. Instead, take massive and determined action to achieve your goals and don’t slow down for anyone and anything.
In 1986 my Dad @philhove had just left the Army after 24 years and bought a small, run down cafe in Stanmer Park.
He’d ploughed all of his life savings into it and we were going to make it a success as a family. My Mum and Dad worked 7 days a week and when they weren’t serving teas and scones to dog walkers they were painting, doing DIY and making the cafe better.
In October 1987 there was a great storm and so many trees were uprooted and blown over.
Customers couldn’t get to the cafe for weeks as the roads were impassable without a 4X4. Business just died overnight.
That first day my Dad realised we were in trouble and he went out and bought a chainsaw, an axe and a splitter and he began chopping the fallen trees.
We spent that entire winter chopping logs day and night which we sold by the van load around Brighton and Hove for £40 a load from one advert in the Argus, our local paper.
I would leave for school at 7am (it was a long walk!) and he’d be up chopping logs and he’d still be doing it when I got home at 4pm. I would help him bag them up and deliver them every evening until 10pm at night.
I was just 13 years old and I clearly remember my Dad’s focus at that time, he was 100% committed to succeed.
We did that for six months, 7 days a week. Because of that income the cafe survived.
I learnt a valuable lesson that stays with me today; even in the biggest set backs in life, with the right mindset, success is possible.
I meet so many people who claim they want success. They know all the cliches, read all the books and say all the right things.
But most people want success whilst avoiding risk or failure. So they settle for mediocrity. And, to avoid disappointment, they begin to reframe what success looks like, lowering their expectations bit by bit.
Some kids dream of being astronauts. Few actually become one. Most just dream.